Hygge. It’s the new buzzword that has everyone looking for candles, comfort, and hot cocoa.
Some have called it homemaking, but that seems too simple for today’s standards.
When I first heard of hygge (around two weeks ago), I gravitated towards it. Comfort, warmth, and ritual have eluded me even as I strive to find them in daily life. Like so many today, I thought the problem was internal. And yes, we all have our issues to work out, but I’m starting to wonder if maybe the problem exists in how I set up my surroundings instead of what I think.
Or. Maybe the two are linked.
Do I take care of myself, my family, my home as if they matter? As if I care about them?
Or do I take care of them as if they are the root of my problems, the source of my anger, the kindling for the fires against my soul?
Both are true at times. I care about them, for them, and yet their lives and needs crowd against me as if to strangle me.
Most days, I’m left holding on to the frail ends of my own sanity. Last night, I sat for thirty minutes in the dark, listening to campfire sounds to drown out the incessant talking, giggling, and general noise. I had sat too long in the daily fray of three girls under 6 years old, and the introvert in me desperately needed a break. It worked, but just barely, and again I’m starting the day with nerves already on the brink of collapse.
I keep taking care of myself, my children and the house. I keep at it, believing maturity and time will iron out some of these wrinkled places.
But what if it doesn’t? Again, the two link. Homemaking, hygge, comfort, ritual, and warmth all need their place in our lives. We desperately need to recognize life in the small places for these small things give us life.
As I sit typing, a candle sits lit to the side. Warm coffee waits to be sipped. A bath robe, comfy socks, and my favorite t-shirt relax me. These small gestures welcome my soul into this space, creating life in the mundane. And so, this space also welcomes you. Grace to you, friend.
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